How Fit Is Your Attitude?
by acac Personal Trainer Bonnie Falbo
We all know what it’s like to feel tired, overwhelmed, in pain, or fearful. We all have default settings for how we respond to our feelings. Some of us just want to slow down and hide in the house with a glass of wine and our favorite snacks. Some of us get busier than ever trying to gain a sense of control. After all, isn’t that what we all want? To feel in control?
The one thing we actually have control over is our attitude. It may not feel like it in the moment, but we do have a choice. This is where our real power lies and, like any other muscle, it can be trained to get more fit. If you find yourself resenting me at this moment, like “right, if you only knew”, stop and think about it. We really cannot control the things life sends our way, and sometimes we don’t even realize what we’re sending our own way, but we can choose what our values are and what motivates us and what we’re committed to in life for ourselves and others.
The thing is, we need to have access to that place where we can connect with realizing that we have a choice. I know you’ve heard this before, and it is true. Even 2 minutes of breath focus can open up the space where we can remember our values, motivators and commitments.
So, the next time you are about to walk into a stressful situation or you spontaneously realize you are just running on pure emotion, stop and BREATHE for even 1 minute. Try putting one hand on your chest and one hand on your belly and just feel the wave of breath. If you’re in public and can’t use your hands, then just visualize the wave of breath. Imagine your navel is a nostril and you just breathe in and out through it. Don’t try to control it, just ride the wave. If your thoughts invade your focus, just smile and say “thinking” and let them float by like clouds.
Give yourself a chance and with the consistent practice of flexing your “attitude muscles” you might find yourself making very different choices and following through on your promises to yourself. And THAT feels really good and makes you feel strong, doesn’t it?