For me, a big thing I’ve learned in the last couple years of my health journey has been to accept help where I need it. I’ve spent a lot of time being stubborn and not asking for the help I need to get me where I want to go.
Despite seeming like opposites, the skill of asking for help goes hand in hand with being emotionally self-sufficient! When you learn to be emotionally self-sufficient, to spend time alone in thought, to not always turn to other people to “fix” your emotions or your problems for yourself but learn to be those things you find yourself often seeking in others, you can better determine when you really need to turn to someone else for help or when you’re up against a problem you need to learn to solve for yourself.
Yet, it’s equally as important to allow yourself to learn from other people, to open yourself to the knowledge and support others can offer to help you be who you want to be.
A year ago, this meant getting regular massages for me. Now it means acupuncture & cupping a couple times a month and therapy weekly. The point is, find yourself a team of healthcare professionals who help you feel better in your body. Some examples are a physician you see regularly, an OBGyn you see regularly, a chiropractor, an acupuncturist, a massage therapist, a counselor/therapist, a life coach, a health coach, a personal trainer, a yoga instructor, a homeopathic nurse or another holistic health practitioner, a dietitian or certified nutrition professional (CHECK CREDENTIALS AND SCOPE OF PRACTICE HERE, there are no laws in VA that prevent just about anyone from calling themselves a nutritionist), or many others! It doesn’t have to be something expensive or all that often, so long as you’re checking in with this person on some regular basis as well as when you meet health challenges, you’re getting that second set of eyes that are often needed to progress forward in a sensible way.
You don’t have to do this alone. You’re not crazy/a failure/lazy; you just need to open yourself to those who can help.
If you need to talk this through, my messages are always open!